Wednesday, January 15, 2025

Taking A Chance**

Nineteen years ago today, I came back to Texas, after having lived in Washington state for just over 21 years.  

I was about to start my last semester of library school.  I had been doing an online program with the University of North Texas, but had accepted a graduate library assistantship in Denton for my final semester.  My hope was being in Texas would make it easier to get a librarian job IN Texas after graduation in May.

So two days before (Friday the 13th!), I'd finished packing up a ABF UPack ReloCube (6'x7'x8' high) and cleaning my apartment,* then flown to Houston the following day to pick up a 2002 Camry that my aunt, Sister Jean Marie, had arranged for me to purchase from the parish that had been leasing it.  I spent the night at my sister's place, and hit the road the next day to drive to Grapevine, Texas, where my cousin Tom and his wife Karen had agreed to let me stay a while.  (Grapevine is about 31 miles south of Denton.)

Heading north out of Houston on Interstate 45, I could see the giant statue of Sam Houston in Huntsville from over six miles away, "which for some reason I found exhilarating," as I wrote in my LiveJournal at the time.  So I stopped (the statue did not exist when I last lived in Texas), and a fellow visitor took this picture of me by a model of the face of the statue.




* So what does all this have to do with Mark's and my second romance?  We'd kept in touch over the years, but he'd moved to California after retiring in 1993, so our contact was infrequent.  However, while I was cleaning my Washington apartment, just before unplugging the phone to pack it away - he called that landline number.  He told me that he had moved back to Texas, just a couple months earlier, to a little town southwest of Fort Worth called Granbury.  I told him I was flying to Texas the next day and would be living, at least initially, in Grapevine, about an hour away from him.  He gave me his new e-mail address and cell phone number.  He already had my e-mail, but I gave him my cell number too - and we left it at that.... for the moment.

** And why did I title this post, "Taking a Chance"?  That's exactly what I was doing.  I'd left a nice apartment, a full-time paraprofessional job with a large public library system,  with decent pay, good benefits, and great coworkers, and good longtime friends in Washington, to accept a short-term, part-time job (albeit also with decent pay and good benefits), with no certainty of where I'd be living after my cousin's house, and no definitive job prospects beyond the assistantship.  But I needed some change to my life, and as I stated at the start of this post, I figured it would be easier to get a professional librarian position in Texas if I was already there.  (Definitely easier to interview.)

So yes, I was taking a chance.  And as it turned out, taking a chance on love again, too.  More on that in future posts.


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Tuesday, January 14, 2025

How We Met

The photos in this blog post were not taken on the day we met.  I can't remember exactly what day we met - although I'm pretty sure it was in April or May, 1979.  I can't remember exactly HOW we met, although I have a story I like to tell, which I'll share here.  

These photos were taken exactly 45 years ago today, on January 14, 1980, a Monday, and may have been as much as nine months after we met.  They are terrible pictures, but they are important (especially now), as they are the first photos of us together.  I'd gotten back home to Corpus Christi late the day before, after a nine-day road trip around Texas with my cousin Donna.

I believe he gave me the large dark green ring that you can see in the pictures on my left hand just a few weeks before, at Christmas 1979. The ring was sterling silver with a large malachite stone in an unusual shape. I wore it for years, until the stone fell out somewhere.  (I do, however, still have the dress I am wearing, which my mother made for me.  And it still fits.)


Above and below:  Mark Gresham and Amanda Pape, Corpus Christi, Texas, 14 January 1980.  Taken with Amanda's Pentax SLR mounted on a tripod and using a self-timer.



So here's the story, as I remember it.  

I started working for the City of Corpus Christi, Texas, Park and Recreation Department on Monday, April 2, 1979, two days before I turned 22.  One of the first assignments I got from my director was to prepare our department's revenue estimates for submission to the Budget Office - of which Mark was the director.

The Park and Recreation Department generated revenue - income - for the City through a variety of fees - swimming pool and tennis center admission fees, fees to play a round of golf and rent golf carts and other equipment, registration fees for teams participating in the city's athletic leagues, facility rental fees, and marina boat slip rental fees, just for starters.  

I had to look at the previous year's estimates and year-to-date revenues, and come up with estimates for the next fiscal year, as well as write a justification for my figures.  I looked at the forms for previous years and found little justification for the numbers generated, so I worked really hard to come up with good, well-justified estimates. (Fellow R&P major friends - Crompton's RP 401 helped!)

Not too long after submitting the estimates, I had to go to the Budget Office to meet with our department's liaison there, Randy Moravec.  Mark came by Randy's desk to introduce himself.  I'd like to think it was because Mark was impressed by the estimates I'd produced, and the detailed justifications.  No, he told me - he says he just saw an attractive woman at Randy's desk that he didn't know, and he wanted to meet her.

And the rest is history.  Tune in again tomorrow when I jump ahead to 2006 and our second romance.


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Monday, December 30, 2024

Mapping the Steeds

This post is a continuation of the work I've been doing with my stepson's mother-in-law, Emily, with her family tree.  Emily was curious about where her Steed family had lived in Chicago, so I decided to map them out - ideally with fire insurance maps, so one could get a sense of what the homes might have been like at the time the family lived in them.  All the homes were in the Canaryville area, west of the Union Stockyards. and they're all gone today. 

Emily's grandmother, Della, was born in Ohio on 23 December 1889 and baptized there on 29 December 1889.  The next child was born in Chicago on 31 May 1891, so the family must have moved there in 1890 or early 1891.  I compiled a list of addresses and dates, some from church records, some from civil records (particularly deaths), and some from directories available online in FamilySearch.  Here are the addresses I found:

4077 Seneschalle (also spelled Seneshall and Seneshalle) - 1891 city directory, and church records from 11 December 1892 through 16 July 1893.  This street no longer exists.  

534 Root - 1895 city directory.  This address was renumbered to 432 in 1909.

518 [W.] 42nd St. - church record from 17 May 1896.  This address was gone by 1909, and the lot was vacant on the 1925 and 1950 Sanborn maps, but it would have been renumbered to 418, and a brick home was built at that address sometime after September 1950.  

4141 Butler (aka 4141 Wright) - church records starting with 25 December 1898, civil death records in 1900, and city directories for 1898, 1899, and 1900.  This address is gone and the street has been renamed S. Normal Avenue.

524 Root - widow Margaret in the 1901 city directory.  This address was gone by 1909.  It is vacant on the 1925 Sanborn map and has the Bunge Brothers Coal Company coal yard on it on the 1950 Sanborn map.

456 W. 42nd St. - Margaret's 18 July 1909 death record, Della and her younger sisters on the 1910 Census, and church marriage records for two of Della's siblings on 10 January 1910 and 12 November 1913.  This is the post-renumbering address - before 1909, it was 556 W. 42nd St.  The original house was still there on the 1925 Sanborn map, but gone by the September 1950 map, so the brick house at the address today was constructed sometime after September 1950.

Below are two fire insurance maps that show the location of the long-gone 4077 Seneshall.  The first is from Rascher's Atlas of Chicago, Volume 11, July 1885; Revised to September 1891.  That's why you see so many things pasted in - additions and corrections were made to the original July 1885 map simply by pasting over it.  This shows how the neighborhood looked about the time the family moved into it.  It should be noted that on this map, north points to the left.


Above:  annotated section of Rascher's Atlas of Chicago, Volume 11, July 1885; Revised to September 1891, sheet 86 (Source: Library of Congress).

Below:  annotated section of Sanborn Insurance Maps of Chicago, Illinois, Volume Thirteen, 1895, sheet 10 (Source: Library of Congress).



As you can see from the map above, the area was quite industrial, with the Chicago Forge and Bolt Company right behind the Steed family home.  During the time the Steed family lived at this address, they attended St. Cecelia Roman Catholic Church (now gone), an Irish parish that was at S. Wells Avenue and W. 45th Place.  Three children were baptized here (and two died) between 7 June 1891 and 31 December 1893.

Sometime in 1894 or 1895, the family moved a bit south and west, to the other side of the railroad tracks.  The other five addresses (1895-1901 and 1909-1913) are shown on the map below (click on the image to enlarge it), all within a block and a half.  Note that on the 1895 map below, the address from 1909-1913 (456 W. 42nd St.) has been located using its pre-renumbering address of 556 W. 42nd St.  The homes were all wood frame and were eventually torn down.

When the Steed family lived in this neighborhood, they attended St. Gabriel Roman Catholic Church at 600 W. 45th, which still exists today, although the interior has been renovated.


Above:  annotated section of Sanborn Insurance Maps of Chicago, Illinois Volume Thirteen, 1895, sheet 8  (Source: Library of Congress).

Below:  part of a Google My Map I created showing the locations of the Steed family homes in the Canaryville neighborhood of Chicago, with a current base map.



Finally, in the map above, I used Google My Maps to place these homes on a current base map - since none of them exist any more.

Last, I'm including images from the pages of the Chicago city directories where I found Michael or Margaret Steed listed.  There are directories available in FamilySearch for the 1884 to 1901 period that they were in this area, and I checked every one of them, but only found them in six directories.  This is not that unusual.


Above:  Michael Steed on page 2177 in the 1891 "Lakeside Directory" published by The Chicago Directory Company, Chicago. "Chicago city directories," database with images, FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/3:1:3QS7-99DX-8NLC?cat=308691&i=1111 : 30 December 2024), Chicago directories 1891 > image 1112 of 1582; from W.C. Cox & Co. (1974: Tucson, Arizona) microreproduction of original directories published by various publishers.

Below:  Michael Steed on page 1653 in "The Lakeside Annual Directory of the City of Chicago, 1895," compiled by Rueben H. Donnelley and published by The Chicago Directory Company, Chicago. "Chicago city directories," database with images, FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/3:1:3QS7-89DX-DWWZ?cat=308691&i=2049 : 30 December 2024), Chicago directories 1894-1895 > image 2050 of 2411; from W.C. Cox & Co. (1974: Tucson, Arizona) microreproduction of original directories published by various publishers.
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Above:  Michael Steed on page 1707 in "The Lakeside Annual Directory of the City of Chicago, 1898," compiled by Rueben H. Donnelley and published by The Chicago Directory Company, Chicago. "Chicago city directories," database with images, FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/3:1:3QS7-L9DX-8N2G?cat=308691&i=961 : 30 December 2024), Chicago directories 1898-1899 > image 962 of 2595; from W.C. Cox & Co. (1974: Tucson, Arizona) microreproduction of original directories published by various publishers.

Below:  Michael Steed on page 1742 in "The Lakeside Annual Directory of the City of Chicago, 1899," compiled by Rueben H. Donnelley and published by The Chicago Directory Company, Chicago. "Chicago city directories," database with images, FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/3:1:3QS7-L9DX-881B?cat=308691&i=2223 : 30 December 2024), Chicago directories 1898-1899 > image 2224 of 2595; from W.C. Cox & Co. (1974: Tucson, Arizona) microreproduction of original directories published by various publishers.



Above:  Michael Steed on page 1802 in "The Lakeside Annual Directory of the City of Chicago, 1900," compiled by Rueben H. Donnelley and published by The Chicago Directory Company, Chicago. "Chicago city directories," database with images, FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/3:1:3QS7-99DX-82JR?cat=308691&i=923 : 30 December 2024), Chicago directories 1900-1901 > image 924 of 2602; from W.C. Cox & Co. (1974: Tucson, Arizona) microreproduction of original directories published by various publishers.

Below:  Margaret Steed on page 1872 in "The Lakeside Annual Directory of the City of Chicago, 1901," compiled by Rueben H. Donnelley and published by The Chicago Directory Company, Chicago. "Chicago city directories," database with images, FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/3:1:3QS7-89DX-8FLH?cat=308691&i=2210 : 30 December 2024), Chicago directories 1900-1901 > image 2211 of 2602; from W.C. Cox & Co. (1974: Tucson, Arizona) microreproduction of original directories published by various publishers.



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Sunday, December 29, 2024

Sorting Through the Steeds

Almost two months ago, I was helping my stepson's mother-in-law, Emily, with her family tree.  Another death in my family, the holidays, and illness in-between interrupted the research.  This post is an effort to chronicle what we've learned, and to also provide evidence to change some incorrect information on a couple of FindAGrave memorials.

The couple in question are Michael Steed and his wife, Margaret born Follard (or Folliard). Emily had found the couple in Chicago in the 1900 Census, but by the 1910 Census, their daughter Della (Emily's grandmother) was the head of the household, suggesting both parents had died sometime between the dates on the census pages (or those adjacent), June 2, 1900, and May 3 or 4, 1910. (Click on the images below to view them larger.)


Above:  Michael Steed family at 4141 Wright St, Chicago, on June 2, 1900.  
"United States, Census, 1900", , FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:MSQG-Z8N : Thu Apr 11 20:50:16 UTC 2024), Entry for Michael Stead and Maggie Stead, 1900.

Below: Della Steed family at 456 W. 42nd St., Chicago, on May 3 or 4, 1910 (this date comes from the next page of the census).
"United States, Census, 1910", , FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:MK87-PC7 : Fri Jul 12 14:47:04 UTC 2024), Entry for Della Steed and Winifred E Steed, 1910.



I found baptism, first communion/confirmation, and marriage records for members of this family from April 1895 through November 1913 on FamilySearch at St. Gabriel parish, an Irish congregation near their home. Unfortunately, this parish either didn't keep death records during that period (it wasn't required), or they were not preserved.  

One thing I discovered in this search was a Margaret Steed who married a Patrick Conroy on 4 April 1902.  The church record (below, click on the image to make it larger) does not have much information, so I asked my Chicago Genealogy (Facebook group) friend Michele to retrieve an image of the marriage license from the Family History Center where she volunteers.  That (also pictured below) doesn't have much more information - except that it says Mrs. before Margaret's name, which was a pretty good indication she was a widow.  That narrowed the time frame for Michael Steed's death to sometime between June 2, 1900, and April 4, 1902.


Above:  Church marriage record for Patrick Conroy and Margaret Steed at St. Gabriel parish in Chicago, 4 April 1902.  "Illinois, Chicago, Catholic Church Records, 1833-1925," database with images, FamilySearch (https://familysearch.org/ark:/61903/3:1:S3HT-6QJ7-HX?cc=1452409&wc=M66G-132%3A39936401%2C40286801 : 20 May 2014), St Gabriel Parish (Chicago: Wallace St) > Marriages 1892-1908 > image 126 of 156; Catholic Church parishes, Chicago Diocese, Chicago.

Below:  Civil marriage license record for Patrick Conroy and Mrs. Margaret Steed, showing their ages and that the marriage was performed 4 April 1902 at St. Gabriel Church.
"Illinois, Cook County Marriages, 1871-1969", , FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:N74Q-5MG : Sun Mar 10 14:01:18 UTC 2024), Entry for Patrick Conroy and Margaret Steed, 04 Apr 1902.



I also checked nearby St. Cecelia, another Irish parish, where three of the children were baptized between 7 June 1891 and 31 December 1893.  They do have some death records online, but only for 1892 to 1896.  These records did verify two children that died before the 1900 Census - which showed mother Margaret (Maggie) having given birth to 11 children with only 9 surviving on June 2, 1900.

Next I looked in FamilySearch for civil death records, narrowing the results to Cook County, Illinois, and 1900-1910.  I found a Michael Steed born in Ireland about 1866 who died 12 or 13 November 1900, and a Michael Steed born in Chicago about 1899 who died 11 September 1900 - likely the youngest child Michael on the 1900 Census, who should have been with Della and her sisters in 1910.  I found a Margaret Conroy, married, born about 1864 in Ireland, who died 15 July 1909.  I asked Michele to pull these images as well.

Michele sent back two for Michael Steed senior, the one who died in November 1900.  Since his was a coroner's death certificate, she also pulled the coroner's inquest record, which provided more details about his death.  Both are below - click on the images to make them larger.


Above:  Cook County coroner's death certificate for Michael Steed, 13 November 1900.
"Illinois, Cook County Deaths, 1871-1998", , FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:Q2MZ-Z1BF : Fri Mar 08 18:46:37 UTC 2024), Entry for Michael Steed, 13 Nov 1900.

Below:  Cook County coroner's inquest for Michael Steed, 13 November 1900.
"Illinois, Deaths and Burials, 1749-1999", , FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:HG1J-G4PZ : Fri Mar 15 00:19:03 UTC 2024), Entry for Michael Steed, 12 Nov 1900.



These records indicate that Michael Steed, age 34 (born June 1865), died 13 November 1900 at Mercy Hospital in Chicago from scalding burns accidentally received when he fell into a vat of hot lard and water in the Continental Packing Company's works at the Union Stockyards on 1 November 1900.  

Note that the death certificate, in the upper left corner, has a note indicating the undertaker (McInerney Brothers) and cemetery (Mount Olivet).

Note on the inquest (record #77, at the bottom of the page), that Maggie Steed, housewife - likely his wife - was one of the witnesses - possibly to verify that the body was his.  The address given for her is 441 (which should be 4141) Butler.  Butler was another name for Wright street, and the family was living at 4141 Wright on the 1900 Census.   

Michele also sent the death records for Michael Steed, born in Chicago, age 1 year 9 months (born December 1898), who died September 11, 1900 at 4141 Wright Street in Chicago of acute gastroenteritis, and for Margaret Conway, born in Ireland, married, age 45 (born November 1864), who died July 15, 1909 at Cook County Hospital of organic heart disease.  The arrangements for both were handled by McInerny [sic] Brothers with burials at Mt. Olivet.  

Note that Michael's death occurred at the same address the family had on the 1900 Census about three months earlier, and that Margaret's residence at the time of death was 456 W. 42nd Street, the same address as four of her daughters ten months later in the 1910 Census.  Other records indicate the family was at this address as early as July 18, 1909, and as late as November 11, 1913.


Above:  City of Chicago death record for Michael Steed, 11 September 1900.
"Illinois, Cook County Deaths, 1871-1998", , FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:Q2MQ-QFPW : Sun Mar 10 17:44:42 UTC 2024), Entry for Michael Steed, 11 Sep 1900.

Below:  Cook County death record for Margaret [Folliard Steed] Conway, 15 July 1909.
"Illinois, Cook County Deaths, 1871-1998", , FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:Q237-6RQM : Fri Jul 05 22:57:22 UTC 2024), Entry for Margaret Conroy, 15 Jul 1909.



Next, I looked for burial records.  Unfortunately, unlike most other Archdiocese of Chicago cemeteries, interment cards are not available prior to 1931 on FamilySearch.  Therefore, I used the Archdiocese's Locate a Loved One feature, which provides much of the same information - just not an image I can display here.

Margaret Conway was buried in Section 22, Lot N125, as was her son Michael (born 1898).  I could not find a record for her husband Michael, even with different spellings of his last name.  My guess is that he is also buried in that lot, perhaps in the same plot as his toddler son, who died only two months before him.  His widow Margaret, left with eight children ages 3 to 16, must have been destitute.

There is another Michael Steed, and two Margaret Steeds, who are also buried at Mount Olivet.  One of the Margarets is in the same lot as Michael born 1865, Michael born 1898, and Margaret Follard Steed Conroy - Section 22, Lot N125.  This Margaret is Margaret McGrath Steed, the first wife of oldest son Patrick Steed.  She died November 17, 1910, at age 24.  They married May 3, 1905, at St. Gabriel, and had two children on the 1910 Census.

The other Margaret Steed, as well as the other Michael Steed, are not buried in the same lot, and have different dates of death.  These two are problematic in FindAGrave, as their wrong dates of death have been posted there on memorials for our Michael Steed and Margaret Folliard Steed Conroy.  I'm going to post the records that show the information in the current FindAGrave memorials is incorrect, in hopes that the manager will correct them.

The Margaret Steed who died in 1936 was the widow of Martin Steed (died 1925, and buried in the same section, 52, and lot, WE210, as her).  Her father was John Rattigan.


Above:  Illinois death certificate for Margaret Rattigan Steed, 6 January 1936.
"Illinois, Deaths and Stillbirths, 1916-1948", , FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:N3CV-1MP : Sun Mar 10 12:15:27 UTC 2024), Entry for Margaret Steed and John Rattigan, 06 Jan 1936.

Below:  City of Chicago death record for Michael Steed, age 4 days, 15 December 1906. 
"Illinois, Cook County Deaths, 1871-1998," database, FamilySearch (https://familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:N789-5NT : 8 March 2018), Michael Steed, 15 Dec 1906; citing , Cook, Illinois, United States, source reference 17417, record number 63, Cook County Courthouse, Chicago; FHL microfilm 1,239,748.



The Michael Steed whose death record is pictured above died 15 December 1906 and was buried the same day at Mount Olivet.  He was only 4 days old.  Because his father was born in Ohio, I suspect this is a son of Patrick Steed and his first wife, Margaret McGrath Steed.  Patrick is the oldest brother of Emily's grandmother, Della Steed Knight Cooper.  Baby Michael is buried in Section 41, Lot S194.


ETA:  I found a couple newspaper articles about the deaths of Michael Steed (1865-1900) and his wife Margaret Follard Steed Conroy (1864-1909).  

There are a couple interesting things about the article about Michael (below, click on it to view it larger) that required me reading the whole newspaper page.  The Inter Ocean newspaper in that era apparently had a contest every week for school children to write news articles.  This article was written by a 9-year-old named Mary Kerrigan who attended Hoerner School (which was on W. 47th Pl. near Aberdeen).  I found two Mary Kerrigans of about the right age who both lived within a mile of school, and who both had fathers who worked in the Stockyards - likely her source of information for the article.

Mary's article was an honorable mention for that Sunday's contest, so she would have had to submit the article by 6pm on Thursday, November 8.   Therefore, the Thursday afternoon of the last week that she refers to must be November 1 (date of the accident), and she indicates he'd died by the time she submitted the article. 

Keep in mind this is a 9-year-old writing the article - she might just have assumed he died.  The November 1 for the date of the accident matches up with the coroner's death certificate, but that same certificate gives the date of death as November 13 - the date of the inquest (I will be ordering a copy of this inquest in hope of finding more detail).  Mary's article is also not quite accurate in that only eight Steed children were still alive at the time of their father's death, not eleven.


Above:  Article about the death of Michael Steed by Mary Kerrigan, from The Inter Ocean, Chicago, Illinois, Sun, Nov. 11, 1900, Page 39.  Accessed via Newspapers.com.

Below:  Death notice for Margaret Follard Steed Conroy, from Obituary 4 -- No Title, Chicago Daily Tribune (1872-1922); July 17, 1909; ProQuest Historical Newspapers: Chicago Tribune, pg. 13



I also found a death notice for Margaret Follard Steed Conroy.  It reiterates her address (under both the new and old numbering systems), her former married surname of Steed, her maiden name of Follard, the fact that she was currently married to Patrick Conroy, that she was born in County Roscommon in Ireland, that she was a member of St. Gabriel's church, and that she is buried at Mount Olivet.


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Saturday, November 30, 2024

Remembering Mom - It's Been Five Years



Geraldine Margaret Guokas Pape (1928-2019) on Thanksgiving Day, 2016.


I'm writing this very early in the morning on Thanksgiving Day, 2024, before I head to Austin, so I guess it is fitting that I'm using a photograph from another Thanksgiving in Austin, in 2016.  Mom looks good in this photo (taken by my brother Mark on my late husband Mark's and my digital single lens reflex camera), despite being in the early stages of the nonfluent/agrammatic primary progressive aphasia, a form of fronto-temporal degeneration, that would take her life at age 91. 

Next year, NO-vember will have the anniversaries of four family deaths - Dad on the 6th, my maternal grandmother Sara Wolfe Guokas Archibald on the 16th, my maternal aunt Jo Ann (Sister Jean Marie) Guokas on the 23rd, and Mom on the 30th.


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Wednesday, November 27, 2024

Sister Jean Marie (Jo Ann) Guokas, C. V. I., September 12, 1030 - November 23, 2024


My maternal aunt, Sister Jean Marie (born Jo Ann) Guokas, C. V. I. (1930-2024), lived a rather remarkable life.  Her official obituary gives most of the facts, but in this blog post, I'm going to quote from an autobiography she wrote in 2009 and added to in 2013.  I'm also posting a few of my favorite or most significant pictures of her that I haven't posted elsewhere in this blog (check for the label "Sister Jean Marie" for all those posts).




Above and below:  Sister Jean Marie was interviewed by Tracy Hatfield for an article entitled "A Wii bit of fun" published in the December 2008 issues of The Bellaire Buzz and the West University Buzz - and was the cover girl for both!



Revised version of my 67 years (1946-2013) since I entered the Incarnate Word Congregation as a 15-year-old young girl, having just completed my sophomore year of high school at Incarnate Word Academy (IWA).  How best can I summarize these years for a web page [no longer in existence] that a young woman might read and become interested in a religious vocation?  Guess at this point in my life, I want it to serve as my autobiography.

Up until the time that I retired (July 1, 2011) from active ministry, my answer has always been the same: "Would not want one thing to change."  Many people weaved in and out of my life that really helped to make my life significant, even the ups and downs helped me experience a fullness of life far from what I expected at age fifteen.  Hopefully they made me be a stronger, faithful servant of the Lord for all these years.  

Today, I do not believe that I can truthfully say that I would not want one thing to change.  There have been several events and actions that I wished could have been different.  This appears to be the challenge that faces me now.  Asking myself what is God asking of me at this time in my life - what changes in my attitude must I let go of to bring more peace and joy into my life.

During the 2012 year, I was finally able to take a long desired sabbatical.  Because of my age [82] and health limitations, I did not want to attend two four-month programs.  So I set up my own type of sabbatical,  I found a six-week program entitled "Sabbatical Journey in the Southwest" in Albuquerque, New Mexico.  That suited my need at the time.  It gave me the opportunity to pray, eat, sleep, and have morning classes on a variety of topics that were interesting to me, all in the same building.  Included were lots of free time to rest, visit with the other participants, travel to surrounding places to take in the history of this New Mexico city, and be exposed to attitudes and life experiences that are extremely significant as one begins to age.

My second program was to spend at least ten days in the other Incarnate Word Congregations, in Corpus Christi and Victoria, Texas; and in Cleveland, Ohio.  I wanted to experience how they lived their religious lives in community.  I found their meals, prayer times, and community sharing were somewhat different.  As a result of my visits, it gave me a greater appreciation of my own life here in the C. V. I. Houston, Texas, community.

Now for more of the traditional stuff needed for one's autobiography.  My decision was to start backwards.  I want whoever is reading this to want to continue to the end.  I believe that this personal web page must not only be factual but hopefully very interesting reading.

- Retired from active ministry from St. Vincent de Paul Catholic Church in Houston on June 30, 2011.  The Parish and my CCE/LDP staff gave me the most wonderful send-off farewell reception.  I served for 14 years as the Director of Religious Education (DRE) for two-year-olds to eighth-graders.  This assignment definitely broadened my understanding of the Church (both pre- and post-Vatican II).  For the past 20 years, I have presented the National Retirement Appeal for Priests-Brothers-Religious Sisters.  I am very proud to say that St. Vincent de Paul has been the top parish in funds collected all of these years.

- Served as chairperson for the Archdiocese of Galveston-Houston Sesquicentennial (150 year celebration) from 1994 to 1997.

- Had the privilege of serving as the Superior General (CEO) of my Congregation for eight years (1986-94). Being Superior offered opportunities to travel to several countries, such as:  Guatemala where we had a mission in the city of Huehuetenango; a pilgrimage to Medjarogie; French cities such as Lyons, Belmont, Avignon, and the chateau where our foundress, Venerable Jeanne de Matel, was born.  Each have played a significant part in the founding roots of our Houston community, and especially our Incarnational Spirituality.  I joined three other superiors from the U.S.A. to travel in Nairobi, Kenya, and even a Swahili village.  Finally, I attended two International Union of Superior Generals from all over the world in Rome.  These two visits gave me the opportunity to actually meet Mother Teresa of Calcutta. (She sat next to me, and, being the table monitor, I had to ask her to let the other sisters give their input on the questions!)  The group was privileged to have a private audience with His Holiness, Pope John Paul II.



Above:  Sister Jean Marie with Pope John Paul II (now St. John Paul II).

Below:  Mother Teresa (now St. Teresa of Calcutta) with Sister Jean Marie.



Above:  Swim contest at the International Union of Superior Generals in 1994 in Mexico - Sister Jean Marie is at right.  More info here.

Below:  A fundraiser at St. Mary in LaPorte, sometime between 1983 and 1986, resulted in a street in a new development being named for Sister Jean Marie, at least for a while.



- Served as a Councilor in my Congregation for the eight years previous to that (1978-86). These community experiences enabled me to follow the advice of our foundress, Jeanne de Matel, to be an "Extension of the Incarnate Word."

- My first experience with parish life started at St. Mary parish in LaPorte when I was the DRE and Assistant Pastoral Administrator for three years (1983-1983).  

- Before this my early years were in elementary education at Annunciation (1948-50 and 1952-53) and St. Vincent de Paul (1951-52), both in Houston; St. Joseph's in Baytown (1950-51), and St. Joseph's in Bryan (1953-55).  

- In September 1955, I found myself teaching science and math at Incarnate Word Academy (IWA) in Houston, my alma mater.  In 1960 I transferred to Bishop Byrne High School in Port Arthur (my first experience teaching high school boys science and math), and was principal my last two years there.  In 1964 I returned to IWA to serve as principal until 1978.  I was principal at IWA's Marian campus the following year, then the first President (1979-80) and first Development Director (1980-83) at IWA.

So what background was provided to me by the congregation?  B.S. and Master of Religious Education from the University of St. Thomas (UST) in Houston; Master of Education and counselor certification from the University of Houston; and the Spiritual Direction Institute at UST.  I was a member of the first graduating class of the Catechetical Leadership Institute in 2002.  I attended IWA, entering the convent at the end of 10th grade at age 15 going on 16 (this doesn't happen any more).  Graduated while in the convent with my 1948 class.  I usually handle getting the group together for our annual noon luncheon.

Some extra activities very significant to me:  Served as a counselor for the Foreign Study League for four years (1969-72), responsible for eight students spending the summer in Europe; became the Administrator of the program for nine years (1974-1982), responsible for the whole group.  This gave me the opportunity to visit London and other England towns, Paris and many surrounding cities in France, Italy with emphasis on Rome and other places of historical and religious interest, Holland, Austria, Germany , even to Spain for a flamingo and Teresa of Avila, and Greece to visit the Parthenon and a trip to Delphi for the famous Oracle.  [My earlier blog posts on this are here and here.  I always thought it was so cool that she went to Europe nearly every summer when I was a teen, and a little jealous that she made it possible for my mom and youngest sister to go too.]

Above:  Sister Jean Marie Guokas at the Lo Scoglio di Frisio restaurant in Rome with the Foreign Study League, sometime between 1969 and 1972 inclusive.

Below:  Sister Jean Marie Guokas (third from right in back row) in the Netherlands, 1969 (the year she wrote on the back of the photo), on a Foreign Study League trip.



Hope you have enjoyed letting me live my past years with you.  Really helped me to see how blessed I have been by my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.  And I hope my story will in some small way serve as an Extension of the Incarnate Word.  "Praised Be the Incarnate Word!"

My favorite Scripture passage is...."God is love, and whoever remains in love remains in God and God in him." - 1 John 4:16


More photos of Sister Jean Marie over the years are (and more will be) here:  https://www.flickr.com/photos/riofriotex/albums/72177720301409067/

Other blog posts about Sister Jean Marie are here:  https://abt-unk.blogspot.com/search/label/Sister%20Jean%20Marie


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Wednesday, November 6, 2024

Remembering Dad - It's Been Seven Years



Seven years ago, my father, Frederick Henry Pape, died rather suddenly at age 88.  It's the anniversary of the first of three family deaths that happened in NO-vember.  This photo was taken March 12, 2006, when I visited my parents at their post-retirement home in Fredericksburg, Texas.  Every time I visited, Dad would clean my windshield before I left.


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Thursday, October 24, 2024

An Old Well on the Granbury Courthouse Square

Earlier this week, I got a sneak peek at the new location of local/my favorite restaurant, Christina's American Table, which will be on the first floor of the recently-restored historic Nutt House Hotel.  In the men's room, there is a window in the floor with a view of an old well (see the photo below).


Above:  View through a window in the floor of the men's room of the old well underneath the Nutt House Hotel and Christina's American Table.

Below:  A wider view of the men's room and the "window to the well."



Apparently, one of the stone pier-and-beam supports when this stone building was constructed (sometime between March 1893 and July 1898) was placed right over the old well opening, and the well was rediscovered in the recent renovation.  So of course I immediately wondered if the well showed up in any old Sanborn fire insurance maps.

Well, it is not specifically marked on any of the available maps.  However, I have a guess on where it was located.  First, look at this map from July 1898.  The building is on the northwest corner of the intersection of Bridge and Crockett. It first appears, in its present stone (indicated by the blue coloring) form, on the July 1898 Sanborn map. Note the location of the wooden posts down the middle of the building (where the red arrow is pointing - click on the image of the map to enlarge it).  They are still there, and this well is to the west (left on the map) of them.


Above:  excerpt of the July 1898 Sanborn fire insurance map for the building that is now the Nutt House Hotel and Christina's American Table in Granbury, Texas -  https://maps.lib.utexas.edu/maps/sanborn/g-i/txu-sanborn-granbury-1898-2.jpg

Below:  excerpt of the March 1893 Sanborn fire insurance map for the site of the building that is now the Nutt House Hotel and Christina's American Table in Granbury, Texas - https://maps.lib.utexas.edu/maps/sanborn/g-i/txu-sanborn-granbury-1893-1.jpg



The building in present form (see the photo below) was constructed sometime between March 1893 (based on the Sanborn map above) and July 1898. Its predecessor was two wood frame (indicated by the yellow coloring) buildings. Note that the one on the left does not extend as deeply into the lot as the one on the right. Although no well is indicated on this map, the well could have been constructed after March 1893, and then the stone building of today built over it.


Above:  Nutt House Hotel on March 2, 2023, after the March 1, 2023 fire that nearly destroyed it when its restoration was nearly complete.

Below:  Nutt House Hotel on October 24, 2024, about to reopen, with Christina's American Table on the first floor.



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Tuesday, October 22, 2024

Success in a Remote Cemetery in Oklahoma

On the way home from visiting my late husband's first cousin in Oklahoma City last Friday, I went almost to the state of Oklahoma's eastern border with Arkansas, in search of the Vaughn Memorial Cemetery in Le Flore County, near the community of Gilmore, which is east of Poteau and north of Monroe.

As I wrote in an earlier post, I found my husband's great-grandfather, John L. Gresham, listed in a 1937 inventory for this cemetery.  I made a photo request through FindAGrave, but it hadn't been fulfilled in some time, which made me think that perhaps the grave marker didn't exist any more.

Well, it's there.  Here's a photo of the top of the marker, which has toppled from its base and now lies flat on the ground.  It reads:
J. L. Gresham
Born Feb. 1, 1855
Died Feb. 15, 1892



Above:  Photo of the top of the grave marker for J[ohn] L Gresham, showing the inscription.  Click on the image to view it larger.

Below:  The sign for the Vaughn Memorial Cemetery on Le Flore County Road N4780 (also known as the Gilmore Road), near Poteau, Oklahoma.  The red arrow points to the toppled grave marker for John L. Gresham (which I also marked for this photo by placing a water bottle on it.  Click on the image to view it larger.



Amazingly, between my GPS, a map on my phone, and notes about mileages and turns, I didn't get lost finding this (but I did learn that there are NO rest stops with restrooms on Interstate 50 between Oklahoma City and Sallisaw, near the Arkansas border).  My strategy upon arrival was to search near the cemetery sign pictured above, which was next to the road.  The older graves appeared to be in this area, and it made sense to me that burials would have started closer to the road.  This turned out to be a good strategy, because as you can see from the red arrow, John's grave WAS close to the front.

What I noticed first was the footstone, pictured below, which was propped up against the base of a toppled monument.  "J. L. G." - John L. Gresham - this had to be it!



Above:  Footstone for the grave of J[ohn] L G[resham], leaning against the base of a toppled monument

Below:  Looking over the base to the toppled monument.



I was amazed to see that the front of the monument was quite detailed!  (Click on the image below to enlarge.)  Although somewhat worn from the weather, there is clearly a flying dove carrying a banner that reads "At Rest" flying under an arched roof made by multiple columns leading into some sort of room with a tiled floor. At the bottom of the front of the monument, these words are engraved: "Resting in hope of a glorious resurrection."


Above:  the detailed front of the grave marker for John L. Gresham

Below:  Looking at the toppled monument from the top down - the inscription with the name and dates of birth and death is upside down at the bottom of the photograph.



I was thrilled to find this, and I've updated John L. Gresham's FindAGrave memorial with these images.  

I also visited the nearby Monroe Cemetery (just 3.4 miles due south), where my husband's great-great-grandmother Mary Malissa Hallmark Self is buried (along with one of her grandsons).  I did not find her husband, Vincent Garner Self Jr., there, nor did I find their daughter, John L. Gresham's wife (and my husband's great-grandmother) Lucinda "Lulu" Vina Self Gresham Young, in the Oak Hill (aka Kiowa City) Cemetery in the town of Kiowa in Pittsburgh County, 89.4 miles southwest.  It's possible they never had markers, the markers are long gone, or the newspaper accounts of their deaths were incorrect about the burial places.


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